Ci tweak3 (#2643)

- enable --one-per-family to build 1 board per family, also skip family if board specified in -b also present
- minimize ci run for push event
  - only build one board per family
  - skip hil test on both pi4 and hfp
- full build will be runn for PR event
- IAR always build 1 board per family regardless of event 
- update build.py to optimize make
- remove all setup python since we don't really need it

.github/workflows/pre-commit.yml

@@ -14,11 +14,6 @@ jobs:
   pre-commit:
     runs-on: ubuntu-latest
     steps:
-    - name: Setup Python
-      uses: actions/setup-python@v5
-      with:
-        python-version: '3.x'
-
     - name: Setup Ruby
       uses: ruby/setup-ruby@v1
       with: